Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. That is truly one of the most well-known beauty quotes – and that’s because it’s a true statement that packs a heavy punch. The impact that I hope to have on you is one that will help you see yourself as the truly beautiful person you are. Girls, we are our own worst enemies. We pick ourselves apart. We doubt both our outer and our inner beauty. We fail to see what everyone else sees as beautiful about us, holding ourselves under the self defeating microscope.
We are pounded by beautiful images everywhere we turn. Magazines are filled with beautiful images of beautiful, flawless women – not one imperfection in sight. Commercials with professionally-lit goddesses pound us every time we watch our favorite show, sending us the message that we should try a product so that we too can be gorgeous. We don’t even have to buy the magazines that assault us as we stand in line at the grocery store. Yet we sometimes do. Those magazines are also filled with images that we can never match, and sometimes shake our confidence. Going to see a movie can be equally daunting as we watch amazing beauties on the giant screen.
What’s a girl to do? We try our hardest to take care of our bodies, eat right and exercise, yet still we are not perfect! We cleanse, moisturize, use the products, put on the makeup, have our hair and nails done, yet still, we don’t even come close those images! It is heartbreaking how many females develop dangerous eating disorders, and undergo risky surgical procedures, to try and achieve whatever look is important to them. Yet it’s never enough. What is really going on here?
Our focus has become so imbalanced and unhealthy – and something needs to change.
While it is important to take care of our bodies and to present ourselves as best we can, to be fixated on outer beauty is a joy-robber. It’s fine to eat well and pursue fitness, to keep our skin beautiful and glowing, and to use makeup to enhance our beauty. The pursuit of absolute perfection, or trying to match the models in the magazines, is an absolute abyss of unhappiness and killer of our spirits. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and we need to be free to appreciate and value our own beauty, not be defeated by some unattainable perfection.
What we need to realize and fully understand is that the images that are set before us are merely illusions; fantasies. Those photos are all photoshopped and enhanced to the point of insanity. Many famous beauties have started posting their own untouched photos, so we can see that they’re just normal, imperfect people, like us. They are tired of being a part of destroying the lives of so many young women who are trying to match the illusion. Our own beauty, the way that we were created, is beauty enough. Take care of yourself, be strong and healthy, wear makeup if it gives you confidence, but don’t let those things define your value! You are valuable because God gave you life and put you here for a reason! In his eyes, you are perfectly beautiful, just the way you are.
We asked men what men want in women, and their answers help us understand that beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. What they’re really looking for is inner beauty. The person that you are. The beauty of a loving heart. The gift of a smile that lights up the room. A sense of humor. Joy. Kindness. Uplifting words. A peaceful countenance. A strong mind. Nothing in our survey results even mentioned physical beauty when it came down to the real things that mattered to them. Listen and hear. Take these words to heart and let yourself off the joy-robbing hook!
Develop your inner beauty. Let your light shine. Be joyful, not defeated. Be positive, not a negative drain. Learn and develop a strong mind. Practice kindness. Think of others. Do nice things for people. Think kind thoughts. Ask for a pure heart and act upon it. Turn your focus outward, to the world around you. The people you encounter will see you as truly beautiful, and true beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Happy beautiful life,